\r\n Originally Posted by seatyed\r\n \r\n

The stress that you are talking about is a result of the meaning you are putting to your partner ignoring you. You (like everyone) ask yourself why are they ignoring me and you supply the answer - \'they are ignoring me because .....\' So you are presuming you know the answer. Please realise you are asking and answering the question. If you perseive the event (ignoring) as negative then you have to supply a negative answer and hence you will feel rejected and now because you are feeling rejected you are stressed. You will aslo run through all the consequences E.G They don\'t love me anymore > they will leave me > I will be all alone > I will get depressed > I will get sick > I will die arrrggg! Once we start on a negative train of though it always leads to I will die. this is our unconscious reaction to a painful event.
\r\nSo when you partner ignores you and as soon as you realise you feel stressed or catch your self thinking \'why are they ignoring me\' realise the meaning you are putting to the event and supply a positive meaning, such as I now have more quiet time for my self, or better still simply \'I am\'. Which means in this moment, I am. this is very powerful for there is an absence of any meaning, just simply the only fact there is. P.S The event is not that they are ignoring you, for this is a judgement (a meaning), the event is that they are there doing whatever they are doing (sitting, standing, walking, working or whatever, which is neutral) and you are where you are, just being I am.
\r\nP.S.S The deper underlying emotion is one of vulnerability, so repeat to yourself \'I am safe\' this helps turn off the fight/flight mechanism which produces the stress response.
\r\ncheers