Douching after oral sex - good or bad?

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Does anyone have good information on this subject? I don\'t think it\'s a good idea, but my boyfriend says I definitely should use vinegar/water douch after he performs oral sex on me. I\'ve gotten yeast infections in the far distant past from douching (as well as antibiotics), so would prefer to avoid this unless it\'s really necessary.

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kind2creatures

\r\n \r\n JanH, I may be wrong, but I don\'t think that Saved1986 thought it was a big joke. I think it\'s an unusual request from your boyfriend for you to douch after oral sex, and I would like to know his reasoning behind it.
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\nI can\'t see any reason whatsoever to douch with vinegar or anything else after oral sex. Douching should be done very rarely, if at all. It upsets the delicate balance of the vaginal flora (beneficial organisms), which help regulate the pH balance. Here\'s a site with just a bit of info. Personally, if it were me, if would not do it, it\'s a bad idea and completely unnecessary.
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\nhttps://www.womenshealth.gov/faq/douching.pdf\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n Thank you. His reasoning is that his mouth is full of germs and he doesn\'t want to transmit any possible infection to me. I told him I didn\'t think it was a good idea, but he insisted it is. I\'ve researched more and it definitely seems not only not necessary, but actually harmful. I\'ve passed that info on to him and he says he\'ll go with the experts\' opinions.\r\n

kind2creatures

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Thank you. His reasoning is that his mouth is full of germs and he doesn\'t want to transmit any possible infection to me. I told him I didn\'t think it was a good idea, but he insisted it is. I\'ve researched more and it definitely seems not only not necessary, but actually harmful. I\'ve passed that info on to him and he says he\'ll go with the experts\' opinions.

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I\'m glad he\'s open-minded, and not pressuring you to do it. There\'s germs everywhere, but douching will probably cause more likelihood of infection, because the vagina\'s protective natural lining will be destroyed/removed.\r\n

Cookie

\r\n \r\n Jan, you\'re a lucky woman!

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\nThe bf could be proactive by using an antiseptic mouthwash & brush his teeth prior if it would make him feel better.
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\n1 tbls of 3% hydrogen peroxide solution (use only 3%)
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saved1986

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Jan, you\'re a lucky woman!

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\nThe bf could be proactive by using an antiseptic mouthwash & brush his teeth prior if it would make him feel better.
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\nAntiseptic mouthwash:
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\n1 tbls of 3% hydrogen peroxide solution (use only 3%)
\n1 cup water
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\n30-60 seconds

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That 3% will kill most germs. I think he is worrying too much though.\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n To all you ladies, yes, I am indeed a VERY lucky woman! I\'m 63 and have had miserable relationships with every man I\'ve been involved with, even gave up totally for 16 years. My BF is turning 75 next week and is THE most giving, kind, loving, thoughtful man I\'ve ever known. He lives 90 miles away, yet is happy to drive it to see me. I could go on and on. I think I\'m going to buy some of the citricidal mouthwash to have him use; I think it will make HIM feel more secure about the situation. I wasn\'t worried at all until he brought this up. Thank you for the input.\r\n

just me

\r\n \r\n I hate to ask this, but is it possible that he has an std, that he is hiding from you? For a man that worried about cleansing after oral sex, I would want to know why, what could I catch from him???? Do you have regular sex? does he have concerns with that or use condoms? Is it possible that he might have some type of disease that he is trying to not give you? (Im sorry, Im always the worry wort!!)\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n Anything\'s possible of course, but I firmly believe that\'s not the case. We "sort of" have regular sex (more for our emotional satisfaction of him managing to be inside me and his physical pleasure), but mostly he uses his fingers and mouth on me and he\'s the most fantastic lover I\'ve ever known, happily spending literally hours giving me orgasm after orgasm with little concern for his own pleasure. He had prostate cancer, but has an artificial pump built into his "plumbing." This enables him to have some erection, but he\'s lost most of that as well as most of the size of his "pride and joy." Fortunately he can still orgasm. We do not use condoms. We discussed all this at the beginning and, unless I\'m the worst judge of men in the world (again possible, based on my past track record with men!), he\'s honestly concerned for my safety based exactly on what he says. I have a number of health problems and he doesn\'t want to add to my struggles. We\'ve been together for months now and certainly nothing even remotely has shown up, nor have I ever caught him in even the tiniest of lies. Of course HIV takes many years, but at our ages, we may both be dead of something else by the time that would manifest itself.\r\n

Cookie

\r\n \r\n Herpes doesn\'t rear its ugly head often either..
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\nHe sounds like a Prince, I\'m happy for you after having such a tough time w/men.
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Somebody suggested \'The Rabbit\' Funny thing is, I don\'t even know where there\'s an adult store near me.
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\nI\'m just old fashioned & need to be courted (or whatever it\'s called) longer than the average bear (or at least a year!)

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JanH

\r\n \r\n Sorry to say, the boyfriend dumped me in a cowardly and cruel way on Wednesday, AND he\'d been cheating on me for much of the time we\'d been dating. Guess not such a prince afterall! Life goes on and I\'ll chalk it up, yet again, to educational expenses!\r\n

kind2creatures

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Sorry to say, the boyfriend dumped me in a cowardly and cruel way on Wednesday, AND he\'d been cheating on me for much of the time we\'d been dating. Guess not such a prince afterall! Life goes on and I\'ll chalk it up, yet again, to educational expenses!

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Sorry to hear that JanH.

But...on the more positive side, it\'s good that he dumped you now instead of later, and you didn\'t waste too much of your time with him. If he\'s a player, hope he didn\'t leave you any "gifts", I get checked out just to be on the safe side. I\'d rather be alone than with someone like that. I\'ve been married to a wonderful man over 34 years now, and I count my blessings everyday.\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n Yes, definitely good that I found out what he was really like. I\'d rather be alone than that too. It\'s just so incredibly discouraging when I FINALLY thought I\'d found a good one! As an interesting aside, seven of the eight people I know who met him while we were dating (I haven\'t talked to the eighth yet) now tell me that they felt very uneasy around him or had bad vibes from him, one said he seemed arrogant and controlling only on two minutes\' chat (and this woman never has anything bad to say about anyone). All say that he SEEMED good, and since we\'d been so happy together for nearly six months, they thought they must be wrong. Something definitely amiss there, so I\'m definitely better off with him out of my life. Makes me seriously doubt my judgment when I saw nothing seriously wrong with him, really thought he was so wonderful. One woman says he seemed to be good at projecting whatever he wanted, yet some darkness in him came through. Sigh....\r\n

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All say that he SEEMED good, and since we\'d been so happy together for nearly six months, they thought they must be wrong. Something definitely amiss there, so I\'m definitely better off with him out of my life. Makes me seriously doubt my judgment when I saw nothing seriously wrong with him, really thought he was so wonderful. One woman says he seemed to be good at projecting whatever he wanted, yet some darkness in him came through. Sigh....

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Being your friends, they probably gave him the benefit of the doubt and since you seemed so happy, they didn\'t want to hurt your feelings or \'rain on your parade\'. I\'m sure he had a Jekyll & Hyde thing going on, and was used to putting on a false front. Too bad for him, the creep blew a good thing with a nice lady. \r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n I had my regular Pap test a couple of weeks ago, got the results online this morning. The Pap test was normal but I\'m HPV positive!!! Now what? I\'ve read a bit online, some say my body may clear the infection on its own. Other than the almost six months with the man worried about douching after oral sex, I had oral and regular sex with a man the day previous to the test who again totally lied his way into my bed! He supposedly had had sex with only four women in his entire life and was just coming off a totally monogamous marriage of many years. Considering everything else I found out he lied to be about, there were probably many more. I don\'t know which gave me this. I\'ve been pursuing a few other possible relationships, but apparently it would appear those won\'t be able to happen now. Anyone have any suggestions (other than swearing off men for the rest of my life) about how to proceed?\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n Thanks! Yes, indeed he did blow the best thing to ever happen to him. I grieve, not for him, but for what I thought we\'d found together. Over and over he told me what a gentle, loving soul I am, how I was the exception to every bad thing he\'d experienced with other women over his lifetime, what incredible fun it was to be with me, on and on. Too bad (for him).\r\n

Arrowwind09

\r\n \r\n If you mess around you will always be suceptible to sexually transmitted diseases and there are a bunch of them... probably more than we know. Perhaps working on building your immunity would be the answer. Most sexually active people get HPV at one time or another. For most people it just passes off. Others have lots of difficulty. Most don\'t even know that they had it.
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\nI couldn\'t figure out if you were for or against douching but douching with Lugols iodine will probably get rid of it. Also ozone therapy can get rid of it but you would have to purchase an ozonator for that.\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n I\'m generally against douching, but keep an open mind if it will help in this situation. I\'m not familiar with Lugols, but went online to see how to buy it. There are apparently both a 2% and a 5% concentration, but I haven\'t a clue which to buy or exactly how to proceed from there. I don\'t "mess around," have actually had very few sexual partners in my life. I was involved with this man who supposedly was as devoted in the relationship as I was, but it was all lies. I\'ve been doing research this morning and apparently even condoms aren\'t a for sure safety against HPV.\r\n

liverock

\r\n \r\n Men are just as likely to be carriers of candida and infect women. Candida in men can spread to the prostate and cause infection through oral sex. Most of the men on the never ending Prostatitis thread probably have candida in their prostates.
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\nhttps://biamontecenter.com/213.php\r\n

Arrowwind09

\r\n \r\n This search page for my blog will take you to many articles regarding Lugols iodine, including where to purchase. Make sure you are on a HealthSalon page, which clearly states so when you open it.
\nhttps://www.google.com/cse?cx=partner...thsalon.org%2F\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n OK, good info, but I\'m talking about HPV here, not candida. The man in question who probably gave this to me has no prostate left, it being removed about 15 years ago for cancer.\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n OK, thanks so much Arrowwind. I\'ll check it out and read it thoroughly. Since I\'m in the early stages of becoming involved with a new man who seems to have real potential for a long-term relationship (no sex yet), it is devastating to me the possibility that my sex life might be over because of this.\r\n

Arrowwind09

\r\n \r\n I do think that if you have HPV and get over it that you are then immune. Can anyone confirm this? So that would make a lot of older men probably immune. Ill keep looking. Maybe someone else knows.\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n I\'m a newbie to all this and pretty darn scary ignorant about it all, but with something like 100 different strains of HPV, if you have and overcome one strain, what about the other 99?\r\n

Arrowwind09

\r\n \r\n Here\'s a page that may be of interest.
\nhttps://www.earthclinic.com/CURES/HPV_questions.html
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JanH

\r\n \r\n Possibly an answer to the immunity question. In reading online one woman (I think) said she tested positive, later negative, then still later positive again, so it might appear that immunity doesn\'t happen????? I\'ve read about Lugol\'s and have ordered some, so keep your fingers crossed.\r\n

pinballdoctor

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JanH

\r\n \r\n Thank you, pinball doctor. I\'ve gone to the mmsstore.com site, but have absolutely no idea what I need to order! Can someone give me some guidance here? I began taking maximum dose of Seagate Products\' super-duper olive leaf extract on Friday when I found out about the HPV. I think it will certainly help my already strong immune system. I think I\'d probably prefer to avoid the colloidal silver, but am certainly open to hearing more about it. I\'ve heard the horror stories of people turning blue with it, but that\'s probably overdosing or an inferior product. At this stage I\'m open to any and all help I can get.\r\n

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Thank you, pinball doctor. I\'ve gone to the mmsstore.com site, but have absolutely no idea what I need to order! Can someone give me some guidance here? I began taking maximum dose of Seagate Products\' super-duper olive leaf extract on Friday when I found out about the HPV. I think it will certainly help my already strong immune system. I think I\'d probably prefer to avoid the colloidal silver, but am certainly open to hearing more about it. I\'ve heard the horror stories of people turning blue with it, but that\'s probably overdosing or an inferior product. At this stage I\'m open to any and all help I can get.

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Seagate olive leaf extract is, in my opinion, the best on the market. Most companies will offer "high dose oleuropein" but Seagate uses the whole olive leaf, and this is necessary because all the phytochemicals in the olive leaf work in a synergistic manner. They also have their own olive trees and process the leaves themselves while most other companies get their product from somewhere else... such as China.
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\nColloidal silver is safe in reasonable amounts. I\'ve been using it for several years now, and the only side effect I\'ve noticed is better health. Come to think of it, haven\'t had a cold or flu in several years.
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\nThe biggest issue with colloidal silver is the price. It is very cheap to make, but is expensive to buy, that is why I bought a good quality colloidal silver generator a couple years ago.
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\nAs far as the MMS is concerned, the best advice I can offer is to read the free book, part one here:
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\nhttps://miraclemineral.org/products/t...-21st-century/
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\nYou have to read about MMS in order to understand how it works, and how to mix it etc.
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\nThey charge for the second part of the book, however, if you are interested, I could email you the second part for free.
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\nKnowledge is power.\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n Thank you for your excellent info. I have Lugol\'s on order and using the Seagate OLE, but would probably like to try the MMS. I would appreciate you sending me the second part of the book. I haven\'t tried to private message anyone on this site, but I\'ll try to figure that out and send you my e-mail address. Knowledge is indeed power!\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n Would a man presumed infected with HPV but asymptomatic benefit from Lugol\'s in any way? How would it be used, if so? The MMS and colloidal silver could be used equally by either gender, of course.\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n I began max dose of the Seagate Olive Leaf Extract on the 9th, began the Lugol\'s iodine on the 15th, colloidal silver on the 22nd. Kaiser refuses to re-test me before one year, saying I can\'t possibly be rid of the HPV this soon. Obviously, I\'ll have to go outside the Kaiser system to get re-tested, but not sure when I should do that. Any suggestions?\r\n

JanH

\r\n \r\n Well, bad news, folks! I went outside the Kaiser system to get re-tested. The ob-gyn office called this afternoon and I\'m still positive, despite about six weeks with the products I\'ve mentioned previously using. Kaiser just tests positive or negative. This clinic tests for strains too and I\'ve got about 10 of the most high-risk ones for developing into cervical cancer. I asked their recommendations and all they said was get re-tested in a year. When I asked about abstinence they said they don\'t even recommend it! WHAT???? She says that 50% of girls/young women become positive on their first sexual encounter and that 80-90% of all sexually-active adults are HPV positive at one time or another, so why bother? YIKES!! Well, I\'m going to be abstaining until I find out I\'m negative, especially with such high-risk strains!!\r\n

JanH · � #1 � 05-24-2011, 06:59 PM

Sorry you think this is a joke! I thought I was dealing with adults here on a serious subject and that we could all perhaps learn some useful info, but instead I get a juvenile smart remark. What good does a "bitching" attitude do anyone, including yourself saved1986? Never mind, I'll research this elsewhere.

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